Who Do You Think You Are?

Figuring out who you really are as an individual, along with your true hopes and dreams, doesn’t come easily to many people. I for one took a while to get there. Luckily role play is a very natural part of human life (especially when you’re younger), and because being myself was never really encouraged, for the first part of my life I focused on being anyone but me.

As a young boy I loved painting my face and pretending to be Ace the guitarist in the rock band Kiss. Yet equally satisfying was embodying my favourite football player in the backyard dressed head to toe in the colours of their team.

As a teenager and young adult, I tried on a few more identities. An Aussie surfer wearing fluoro coloured singlets, board shorts and thongs with a white nose covered with sunscreen. An alternative music grunge guy wearing a flannelette over a band t-shirt complete with Doc Martin boots. The raver dance guy, wearing a tight white t-shirt and 501 Levi blue baggie jeans.

When it comes to the New Age spiritual seeker, I have a mental block as to what I was wearing at that time (and probably for a good reason). I had taken on so many spiritual names that even I was confused as to which one to use on any given day. I also became a yogi guy wearing fisherman pants, yoga school t-shirt, marla neck beads and long hair made up into a man-bun.

It’s not that being part of a subculture or group is wrong. To the contrary, I see now in hindsight that in many ways immersing myself into those cultures was essential and helped me to evolve and know myself better. The pitfall was when I over-identified with a particular image and became a stereotype. It obscured and stifled me from experiencing more deeply the multi-dimensions within me.

Over time I have noticed recurring archetypes I like playing out, but the difference is that I don't get carried away with any one expression. Instead I just enjoy finding fun creative outlets for each archetype and overall expect and anticipate a continual change and shedding of skin – not dissimilar to that of a snake as a regular part of living, learning, growing and evolving in the human experience.

It’s also natural for human beings to want to be part of a tribe. In fact, in native cultures it was essential not to be excluded by the community if you wanted to survive. In so-called modern times, that desire to be part of a tribe still exists and is seen in the form of football supporters and music fans. However, this need for significance, connection and meaning is now being manipulated by businesses and subsequently turning people into slaves to a specific brand.

Spiritual movements, religious organisations and cults also attract followers by offering to fulfil the human needs of being part of a tribe and giving the individual a sense of identity, contribution, connection, meaning and certainty.

Yet the secret to being ‘you’ lies in not taking yourself too seriously and holding off on defining who you really are. Give yourself space. And if you find you’re leaning too much on any self-identity, remember that your soul is beyond definition. It wants you to stay fluid and open to continual evolution, so let go and invite all possibilities of who you can be to unfold to help you unleash your highest potential.

Remember that self-discovery requires time, space and supportive experimentation.

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Clear creative blocks and free unleashed passion with hypnotherapy

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Despite what many believe, creativity is not limited to artists. We are all born with enormous creative potential, but often it can be misguided, repressed or remain unrealised.


Through the use of hypnotherapy however, we learn to tap into the power of the subconscious mind where we can uncover the limiting beliefs that thwart creativity. Essentially hypnosis allows us to access our hidden creativity to generate creative ideas and the enthusiasm to make them happen.


For example, hypnotherapy is highly effective in reducing or eliminating stage fright, writer's block, perfectionism, fear of failing, negative self-talk, debilitating self-beliefs and distorted perceptions that can all get in the way of creative self-expression.


Whether it’s learning to cook, paint, play an instrument, write, sing, dance or simply remembering lines in drama classes, all creative endeavours and self-expression can be improved through the utilisation of hypnotherapy. This safe and natural technique allows us to free ourselves at the subconscious level of the mind, so we find ourselves more often than not ‘in the zone’ and transcending limitations to reach new heights of creative expression.


Being stuck in a creative rut can be disheartening at best and frightening at worst. When the creative juices stop flowing, anxiety and even panic can set in.

Many creative blocks actually come from childhood and early teens, and in those cases, hypnotherapy can help regress a person back and free up past blocks and negativity.

In the deeply relaxed state of hypnosis, we have the opportunity of planting new seeds, reinstalling and upgrading resources, beliefs and perceptions that can all go on to positively and automatically influence creative expression.


An older female client came to me who was frustrated with forgetting her lines in drama class. What we uncovered was she had limiting beliefs that she was old and her memory must be deteriorating, when in fact it was her nerves and comparing herself with the other actors who seemed to be unflustered that was causing her memory to falter.

The combination of her limiting belief of being old and projecting onto other actors that they had it together all culminated in affecting what she expected of her memory. So I encouraged her to focus instead on enjoying the process and to be open to the fact that on the surface other actors may seem to have it together, but really who knows what's going on with them on any given day and that they don't always remember their lines either. The positive shift in her perception triggered memories of times in her life where reciting lengthy poetry was quite easy, and this gave her fresh confidence in her mind. Her new outlook was that now she was getting out of her own way, the drama classes were going to be great for her memory - just like people that do crosswords to work the mind memory muscle. In hypnotherapy, we also had her mentally rehearse experiencing herself enjoying drama class even when she messed up her lines, something which to her delight actually started to happen a lot less often.


How does hypnosis work?

Hypnosis is a safe and comfortable trance-like state that's characterised by deep relaxation, increased suggestibility, and heightened imagination. Hypnosis can be compared to being absorbed in a good book or movie.

During a hypnotherapy session, you are in the theta brainwave state — the same state experienced during daydreaming, deep meditation, and light sleep. The benefits of going into a trance are not only the retraining of the mind with beneficial habits, but it’s also deeply relaxing and rejuvenating on many levels: a complete mental and physical reset like waking after a good sleep.


Discover today what hypnotherapy can do for you, whether it’s unleashing hidden talents or conquering fears to allow you to be the creative and passionate individual you were born to be.


To enquire or book in for a session contact Skye today!







ARE YOU LIVING THE LIFE YOU’RE MEANT TO BE, OR JUST PLAYING IT SAFE?

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If you were Bilbo Baggins – the famous fictional hobbit from the Shire – would you have gone on the treacherous quest to take the treasure from under the dragon’s nose? Or would you have made excuses like "I’m only a hobbit and we’re just small and ordinary folk. And who would take care of my home and garden patch?”
When Gandalf the wizard chooses Bilbo to join the party of dwarves to go on the quest, in fear and total disbelief the hobbit declines the invitation citing numerous excuses as to why he’s not the right person for such a task. Gandalf then reminds Bilbo that when he was a young hobbit he was always running off into the woods in search of elves, and how that younger version of himself would have liked nothing better than to find out what was beyond the borders of the Shire.

What Gandalf sees is the potential in Bilbo, even though he’s oblivious to it himself.

After declining the quest invitation the night before, Bilbo awakens in the morning feeling enormous relief that Gandalf and the dwarves had left him in peace. But not long after he is overcome with regret about the missed opportunity. He feels that he’s letting his true destiny pass him by. Luckily, he succumbs to this inner prompting and chases after them.

Bilbo, of course, turns out to be the perfect person for the journey, partly due to his size and the fact that the smell of hobbit would be unfamiliar to the dragon and therefore an advantage in procuring the treasure. More than that though, he was born for the adventure. In other words, his soul wanted him to have the experience for soul evolution. And Gandalf arriving at his door was really destiny that came knocking.

Funnily enough, Bilbo’s life in the Shire prepared him for the quest he was born to undergo. This is confirmed along the journey time and time again to the surprise of everyone – especially Bilbo himself. You see, many people are aware that their soul journey awaits but they cling to the comfort of ‘the Shire.’ They doubt themselves and want certainty that if they do go, it will all go to plan. But as Gandalf said to Bilbo – there are no guarantees that you will return and if you do, you will not be the same hobbit.

I have found that even if a person has decided they will leave the hypothetical Shire, they can procrastinate, feeling inadequate and unready, when what is needed from them is to take the first steps.

What we find is that with each step of the way the path will present all that is needed for the soul to evolve, and if we stay on track or go astray, we can expect to receive guidance and help along the way.

While we need a direction and map, more critical is remembering that it’s not arriving at the destination but the journey itself that matters. The obstacles along the way serve a purpose and bring out inner qualities we may not have known existed, helping us transform forever.

Everyone needs a Gandalf in their lives to prompt, guide and see in them what at times they don't see in themselves. That is where soul guidance comes in.

If you’d like more direction in your life, to clear the blocks to your rightful path, or a helping hand in discovering and fulfilling your true destiny, get in touch with me today. More than a life coach, I offer spiritual guidance to break down the fear and help you live the life that you were meant to.

Kind Regards

Skye